It can be difficult to move beyond the idea that conversations are a competition between two people. High school debate teams often focus on combative debates, where the goal is to win and convince an audience, not necessarily the other side. While debating can have its advantages, it’s important for people to learn how to engage in meaningful conversations without resorting to argumentation or debate tactics.
When engaging in conversation, it’s important to remember that listening is more important than talking. Instead of formulating a response while the other person is speaking, take note of their words and internalize them before responding. This will help you understand their perspective better and make for more interesting conversations with them. Asking clarifying questions can also help you get a better understanding of what they mean by something they said before you respond or refute any points they made.
Some might argue that there is no point in discussing topics with someone who holds factually wrong opinions as there’s no way of convincing them otherwise; however this isn’t always true as some might surprise you with their views if given the chance to explain them properly without interruption from either side - allowing for an understanding between both parties and maybe even learning something from each other along the way!
In order for successful dialogue without debate, both parties need to be open-minded and willing to listen rather than just waiting for their turn so they can make another point or rebuttal - which tends to lead down a path where neither party has learned anything new nor had any meaningful exchange at all! So if your goal is growth or learning through dialogue - keep an open mind while listening intently and give your interlocutor space enough talk through whatever topic you chose together until it’s been discussed fully enough so both sides feel heard out - then proceed accordingly!
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Author Eliza Ng